When and How to ASK a woman out When dating successfully, getting your timing right is one of the single most important factors. Timing in respect to the best time to ask a girl out, with respect to what night to ask her out first and even with respect to when in your lives you actually meet at all. Understand when a woman has good reason to say no Be flexible and offer an alternative when asking - are you free Thursday or Friday? Don't fight her excuses if she says no -move on Always sound busy yourself Accept that some people you will meet at the wrong time Choose a weeknight for the first date Choose the right moment to approach a date in a bar of nightclub Never be scared of asking. The more you ask the more confident you will be Try not to ask her out in the middle of a big group, choose your moment carefully for maximum effect Don't get annoyed if she says no. Smile! Try and know as much about your date's circumstances in advance only if she is known to you already Work out the best moments to ask someone out Don't ask her out when she is clearly busy or stressed or unhappy or not well Love Advice Love is a feeling that comes from the heart and changes our lives forever... Love is special and love is precious. It comes in our lives like a soft breeze and things change forever. So when something is so valuable, we should make sure it stays with us forever. But as it is said the path of true love never runs smooth. So here we are with some simple suggestions to help make your love life smooth and happy. Our love advice is simply a step in helping you see the stronger and the positive side of your relationship. Sometimes minor arguments can lead to a lifetime of heartbreak. But it doesn't have to be that way.

With these practical and simple love advice, you can work your way around nearly of any crisis. So don't give up yet. And better, strengthen your love bonds; as love is richer than all the gold put together and more beautiful than the nature itself. Build a Bridge of Communication The best way to enhance any relationship is through communication. If there is open communication there is hardly any room for misunderstanding or secrets. You will feel free and your love life will only turn towards the positive side. But never use words to hurt someone's feeling. Words leave a lasting impression whether positive or negative. So speak only good things. And even if you are angry, take control and speak after your anger has subsided. Let your heart do the talking not the ego or the anger. Listen to Your Sweetheart Well love not only means to speak but to listen also. This is one love advice that is useful for all relationships. Communication and listening go hand in hand. So understand the importance of both. When your sweetheart wants to say something, give him/her your undivided attention. If you feel you are completely stressed out and can't give your 100% then say it politely like, "sweetheart can I freshen up and then we can sit and talk?" She'll surely respect you for being honest. See the situation and react appropriately. When you are listening, make sure your body as well as your mind is there. You can't be doing justice to your relationship if you are thinking about something else. An occasional nodding of the head will reassure your partner that you understand what he/she is saying. Also don't jump at every sentence to give advice. Let her finish first and then you start speaking. Praise Your Partner Praising goes a long way. Most of the time the person we love hear praises least. So remember to praise your beloved once in a while. Leave small thank you chits to show your appreciation. When among friends and family praise him/her for being considerate and helpful. After all even the smallest gesture is an expression of love that should be reciprocated whenever possible. Say "I am Sorry" Well in this love advice we are telling you something that you know already and yet it is difficult to implement it. Saying sorry to anybody is never easy. Most of the times our pride comes in our way. But these three simple words are very effective, easily when it can save from building lot of resentment. o the next time you have a fight, and you are at the wrong end say these simple three words and patch for the lost time. If you are finding it difficult to say it in person, take some help. You can write a big sorry note and pin it on the wall. Or you can write it on small chits on stick ons and leave it around the house. Sorry cards and flowers are also a good way to show that you really mean what you are saying. Let love be the only feeling that you two share, not resentment and misunderstanding. So we have now seen that how these simple suggestions can turn the direction of your love life forever. So keep reading these love advice and change your relationship for the better. Happy Valentine! Be together always…

Dating Tips-For Men

When going out on a date there are some basics that are worth listing in a quick list to cover the essentials. Whilst we all know this stuff it is always worth reminding ourselves as guys as to how to get the foundations right.

Bathe

This may sound cheeky but the worst thing you could do when going out on a date (especially if it is your first date with her) is to turn up unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the species and will judge you on how hygienic you are, after all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking like a hippie that hadn`t bathed for a while (no offense). It doesn`t cost to take a bath and make an effort. Remember bad breath and body odor are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are all the time. Even if you are just having a bad day (hey, girls have bad hair days all the time) she won`t see beyond your appearance - fickle, but true!

Arrive on Time

The worst thing you can do is turn up late! Turning up late will send out all the wrong impressions that you definitely don`t want her to think. Women always assume the worst and one of the worst is turning up late. Not only will she think that she has been stood up, but will also think that you are unreliable. If you are picking her up from her home, then it is advisable to turn up 5 minute before you are due. Any earlier and she will be adjusting her make up, or still getting ready and won`t want you to see her half finished. Turning up late... well just don`t!

Be a Gentleman

Hold the door open for her, let her walk through the door first, pull out her chair, be polite to her and the people around you. Women like to feel special and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.

Compliment Her

The first thing to say to her is "you look beautiful" before you even ask how she is. Keep the compliments flowing throughout your date, such as "your hair looks nice, I like the color of it, your eyes are very sparkly" etc.. But do not go overboard! A woman loves to be complimented, feel sexy, gorgeous and beautiful. However, most important of all, she needs to feel you are attracted to her.

Listen to Her and Ask Questions

Nobody wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about themselves, or not listening to what the other person is saying. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. There is nothing more that a woman likes than when someone is interested in what they have to say.

I remember once I was sitting in a restaurant waiting for some friends. There was a man and woman sitting at the table next to mine and I couldn`t help overhearing their conversation (rather him talking about himself). I could tell it was their first date from what he was telling her about himself. "I play Saturday league football, I like boxing".... He went on like this for about 10 minutes without stopping, or asking her questions. She was just sitting there nodding slightly every so often, and looking bored. That day left an impact on me, and every time I have been on a date since, I have been conscious of the woman, and took an interest in what she had to say. This is probably the best bit of advice I could give.

Prepare

The last thing you want is to be sitting having a meal and the conversation dry`s up, and you are left for the rest of the night bored with each other. Think about your date and what you would like to know about her, and in return what you would like her to know about you. Try and think of any questions that she might ask you, so that you can prepare the answer. You think that it is easy to talk, and that you will not run out of questions to ask, or that you will automatically have the answers. But until you are there, and in the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. You can avoid all of this by meeting for a quick drink, then go on to see a film, so at least you will have something to talk about.

Who Will Pay?

This is a really tough question, as now women are more independent and like to pay their way. I suggest that you offer to pay and if she lets you, then pay. If she wants to pay, you can argue that you want to at least pay for half the bill. If she offers to split again, you can argue (that is if you want to), but if she insists on splitting then let her pay half.

The Goodnight Kiss

Some women prefer not to kiss after a date, others are disappointed if the guy doesn't even try. There is no easy answer to this. The only answer I can come up with is; wait until either she makes the first move, or that you both know when you are ready. Watch out for body language and little touches, but I would not advise sex on the first date unless she wants to.

I'll Call You

Only tell her that you will call her if you mean it, and intend on seeing her again. This is an awkward situation, and most of the time the easiest solution is, to take her number and tell her you will call her, but don`t if you are not interested. When saying good-bye just say "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck, or you could just say good night, smile, and walk away. But if you do like her and are interested, then you have to let her know.

Tender touches and silent prayers- this is the aura of love that surrounds the hearts of lovers everywhere. Love and romance are the gifts of almighty which leave an everlasting impact on the human beings for ever. Love is an expression that touches us all and yet leaves us speechless when it comes to expressing it. On the occasion of Valentines Day, we bring a selection of love and romance messages especially for you. These are the expressions composed for diehard romantic fellows. Love and romance messages could be presented to your beloved as valentine gift also.

Love Messages
Here are some love messages that you can send to your beloved in a valentine e-card or even as a simple love note along with a gift.

• You don't have to love in words; even through the silences love is always heard. I Love You Honey.
• The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen, nor touched but are felt in the heart.
• If you're going my way, I'll walk with you.
• No man is worth your tears and the only one who is will never make you cry.
• You can fall from the sky.
  You can fall from a tree.
  But the best way to fall.
  Is in love with me.
• Last night I looked up at the stars and matched each one with a reason why I love you I was doing great, but then I ran out of stars.
• I love you not only because of who you are but also because of who I am when I'm with you.
• They say you only fall in love once, it can't be true. Every time I look at you, I fall in love all over again.
• Loving you is like breathing. How can I stop?
• Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice, but falling in love with you was beyond my control.
• Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have, always will.
• Crushes are like the wind, they come and go. My love for you is like a mountain; it's here to stay.
• There are only two times that I want to be with you... Now and Forever.
• Sometimes the best things in life are worth waiting for. So wait for me, I'll be right back.
• Tonight I ask the stars above.
  How I'll ever win your love.
  What do I do.
  What do I say.
  To turn your angel eyes my way?
• The shortest word for me is "I"
  The sweetest word for me is "love"
  The only word for me is "you!"
• The way you look into my eyes
  It scares me
  The way you say "I love you"
  It scares me
  The way you know just what to say
  It scares me
  The ways you scare me
  I love it

Miss You Messages
Are you lonely this Valentine? Then bring your sweetheart closer with these romance filled miss you messages.

• To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. Missing You badly.
• It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone. Miss You
• Loving someone isn't when you picture yourself with them, it's realizing that you can't live without them.
• You know you're in love when you think about someone more times in a day than you think about yourself. I Miss You
• Wanted by many
  Taken by none
  Talking to some
  But waiting for one
  I Miss You
• Roses are Red
  Violets are blue
  I am away
  But still thinking of you.

The Origins of St. Valentine's Day

The roots of St. Valentine's Day lie in the ancient Roman festival of Lupercalia, which was celebrated on Feb. 15. For 800 years the Romans had dedicated this day to the god Lupercus. On Lupercalia, a young man would draw the name of a young woman in a lottery and would then keep the woman as a sexual companion for the year.

Pope Gelasius I was, understandably, less than thrilled with this custom. So he changed the lottery to have both young men and women draw the names of saints whom they would then emulate for the year (a change that no doubt disappointed a few young men). Instead of Lupercus, the patron of the feast became Valentine. For Roman men, the day continued to be an occasion to seek the affections of women, and it became a tradition to give out handwritten messages of admiration that included Valentine's name.

There was also a conventional belief in Europe during the Middle Ages that birds chose their partners in the middle of February. Thus the day was dedicated to love, and people observed it by writing love letters and sending small gifts to their beloved. Legend has it that Charles, duke of Orleans, sent the first real Valentine card to his wife in 1415, when he was imprisoned in the Tower of London. (He, however, was not beheaded, and died a half-century later of old age.)

 

February 14 is Valentines Day, the day on which we celebrate and explore love in all it's many ideals. How a day for lovers came to be celebrated during the middle of February is an interesting and ages old story. The story of Valentines Day begins during the heyday of the Roman Empire, which held a festival every February. This Lupercian Festival was held in honor of the God of Fertility and during the festivities young men would get to choose their mate. At the time marriage was a common occurrence, but when Claudius became Emperor he changed all of that. Fearing that men would refuse their duty to fight because they would not want to leave their wives behind, he outlawed all marriages. Young couples still fell in love though and still wished to marry and they took these desires to the Catholic Bishop Valentine who, understanding love, began to secretly marry couples. When Claudius found out, he had Valentine arrested and ordered put to death. While waiting in jail, Valentine began exchanging letters with the jailer's daughter and soon had fallen in love with her. The day he was to be beheaded, he wrote her one last note and signed it: 'From Your Valentine'.

In 496 A.D. Christianity had taken over Rome and Pope Gelasius outlawed the pagen Lupercian Festival. Knowing it's popularity, he looked to replace it with something more 'appropriate' and set aside a day in February to honor the martyr St. Valentine. Even though in 1969 the church removed St. Valentines Day from it's calendar of 'official' holidays, it is still widely celebrated today.

Valentines Day is perhaps best known for its cards. This is a custom whose origins could stem from any number of places. One belief is that the tradition began when St. Valentine himself passed notes to the jailer's daughter. Another story is that children used to pass notes to St. Valentine while he was in jail. He was so popular that even after his death the children still placed noted through the bars in his empty cell. A third story as to the origin of passing out cards stems from a French Count who was captured and imprisoned in London. From his cell he wrote his wife letters, including a passionate set of poems which he sent to her in February. However it truly started, Valentines Day cards are now sent at the rate of one billion a year, setting it just behind Christmas as the most popular card sending holiday. Valentines Day cards have been around in one form or another for hundreds of years. They became popular in the 1700's as handmade cards made with satin and ribbon and lace among other fineries. By the early 1800's, commercial valentines began to appear. Some were so ornate that they cost upwards of ten dollars. An amazing sum for those times. By the 1840's cards were so intricate that some had moving parts. Up until the late 1800's, all of the mass-produced Valentines Day cards were made in England and other European countries. In the early 1870's a 19-year-old American woman named Esther Howland had the idea to begin producing commercial Valentines Day cards in America. She started out with three friends and her brother and in assembly line fashion began producing hand-crafted cards which were shipped around the country. By the end of the decade she was making over 100,000$ a year. At the turn of the century, a new form of Valentines Day card appeared the 'Penny Dreadful'. Up until this point, cards were relatively expensive but the Penny Dreadful changed all that. They were just what the name implied, costing only one cent and completely bad. The cards were cheaply made, the artwork was amateurish and the coloring was uneven. On top of that the verses printed on them were not the most romantic of prose. They were more often 'insults', taking swipes at old maids, teachers and the like. Still their low cost kept them popular for years.

Like many holidays, Valentines Day is a day of symbols. Walking around in the first few weeks of February, you can't turn a corner without seeing a red rose. The rose was sacred to Venus who is the Goddess of Love. Another popular symbol of the day are birds, particularly doves and lovebirds. These are two birds which mate for life and it was once believed that they choose their mate in the middle of February. Of course no Valentines Day would be complete without a multitude of hearts. It was once believed that the heart was the center of all emotion. People believed that when they gave a heart, they were truly giving all of the love and emotion that they possibly could give. In the Middle Ages men would pull a woman's name out of a bowl. This would be the man's Valentine. To show his devotion, the man would wear the paper containing the woman's name on his sleeve for a week. This soon became known as 'wearing your heart on your sleeve'. And Valentines Day wouldn't be the same without a visit from Cupid, the winged cherub with a bow and arrow which he uses to place people into love. The origins of Cupid can be traced back to the days of the Roman Empire. Cupid is a Roman God, the symbol of passionate love. (He is the son of Venus, who remember is the Goddess of Love.) Cupid fell madly and completely in love with Psyche, whom it happened was a mortal. This did not please Venus at all and she gave Psyche a particularly hard time, consistently tempting her and driving her off. Eventually, through a small series of human faults, Psyche was tempted to look into the 'box of beauty' and when she did, she unleashed a deep slumber onto herself. Cupid then came to Earth and searched the world for her. He found her in her deep sleep. His love for her was so strong though that he was able to take the sleep from her and place it back into the box. Then he used an arrow to pierce her heart and awaken her.

Besides giving cards, candy and kisses there are some other interesting customs (both current and past) associated with Valentines Day. For instance, in England children take to the street, singing songs and passing out cards. In Denmark people give out pressed white flowers as a sign of their affection. In the 1700's, English women would write the names of men on small pieces of paper and then roll the paper up inside little balls of clay. They threw the balls into the water and the first paper that popped to the surface was the one with the name of the woman's true love. A popular belief is that if a woman goes to a graveyard and runs around reciting a certain chant, she will see an image of her true love. A similar idea held over from years past is that on Valentines Day a woman is to sit by her window. The first available man that walks by is the one who is destined to marry her.

There is a dark footnote that must be added to the history of this special day. The date: Valentines Day 1929. The place: Chicago. The event: The St. Valentines Day Massacre. It is still not completely clear who all of the players were that were involved and what the exact motives were, but this much is know: seven men were viciously gunned down in a Chicago garage. The men who did the shooting were dressed as police officers and were members of Al Capone's gang. The men who were shot were of a rival bootlegging operation. This was of course not the only gangland killing of the time, but it has grown to symbolize the mood and actions of Prohibition.

So as to not end on a dour note, a Bruskin-Golding study of the holiday discovered that 3% of all pet owners buy a Valentines Day gift for their pet.